Only One of You Will Be in the Room
The principal is eighty-one. The associate drafting the will is thirty-one. Twenty-four questions that decide whose certainty survives the room.
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1 — Only One of You Will Be in the Room
The principal is eighty-one. He built the thing across five decades, three recessions and one divorce that cost him a building. He is the most certain person in the room about what he wants.
The associate drafting the will is thirty-one. She is sharp, she is fast, she went to a better school than the partner who hired her, and she has never once watched an estate be administered from the inside. She is the second most certain person in the room.
Both kinds of certainty are earned. Neither is the kind that matters here.
On the day this document is finally read with real attention, only one of these two people will be in the room. It will not be the one who signed it.
That is the whole asymmetry of estate work. A wealth advisor holds the money, and a bad quarter shows up on a statement inside ninety days. The lawyer holds the intent, and a bad clause shows up in a courthouse a decade later, argued by people who are related to each other and no longer speaking, against a file the drafter is not present to defend.
The generational meeting is not a problem to be solved. The old generation carries the intent and cannot verify the drafting. The new generation carries the drafting and has not yet seen what happens to it. Each is holding the half the other cannot check.
What follows is twenty-four questions built for that gap. Each has an answer a prepared lawyer gives in a sentence or two, and a dodge that sounds like an answer to anyone not listening for it. Both are printed here. The dodges are the useful half.
None of these questions asserts what the law is. Every one asks counsel to cite it. Doctrine varies by state, and the point of the exercise is to learn whether the person drafting knows which state's rule governs your paper.
2 — Provenance of the Document
Four questions about where the words came from. A lawyer who maintains their own precedent answers all four quickly. A lawyer working from an inherited file answers none of them well.
1. Did you or anyone here use a language model to draft, research, or review any part of this, and will you put that in writing?
Composed prose can carry citations to cases that do not exist and clauses that resolve to nothing. The value is not in the answer. It is in whether counsel will sign the answer.
The dodge: We use technology like every modern firm. That is neither a yes nor a no, and it was chosen because it is neither.
2. Show me the precedent this was built from, and the date it was last revised for statutory change.
You are not buying a form. You are buying a judgment that the form still works. A precedent that has not moved in five years has outlived at least one legislature.
The dodge: It is our standard document. Ask when the standard last changed and what changed it.
3. Which state's law governs each instrument, and why that state rather than mine?
Governing law decides validity, the reach of trustee powers, and how far a creditor can get. If it arrived with the template, nobody decided it.
The dodge: That is standard in the industry. No jurisdiction is standard.
4. Name a clause you removed from your template in the last two years, and what made you remove it.
The hardest question here to fake. A lawyer who maintains their own precedent answers in one breath, usually with some feeling about it. A lawyer who inherits their precedent cannot answer at all.
The dodge: A pause, then something general about staying current.
3 — Statute and Citation
An opinion without a citation is a guess on letterhead. Five questions that separate the two.
5. State the tax consequence of this structure in one sentence, then cite the section that supports it.
Complex structures rest on narrow statutory authority. If counsel cannot name where the authority lives, what you have is a position, not a plan.
The dodge: I would have to look that up. Acceptable exactly once — followed by looking it up while you wait.
6. What happens to this plan if the exemption is cut roughly in half? Show me the clause that responds.
A plan that only works at today's threshold is a plan with an expiry date nobody wrote down.
The dodge: We would revisit it then. By then the drafter may have moved firms, retired, or died.
7. Which assets here receive a basis adjustment at death and which do not — asset by asset?
This is the seam where a well-meaning trust quietly costs the heirs more than the structure saves.
The dodge: A general answer about step-up. Ask for the list.
8. Is generation-skipping exemption allocated automatically here or by election, and where is that recorded?
Misallocation is usually discovered by an accountant years later, at which point the fix is expensive or unavailable.
The dodge: That is handled at the return. Ask who files it, and how that person will know what was intended.
9. My heirs live in three states. What is the estate or inheritance exposure in each?
State-level exposure does not follow the federal number, and beneficiaries are rarely all resident where the documents were drafted.
The dodge: Federal is what matters. For a good many families it is not.
4 — Custody of the Original and the File
These documents outlive careers. Four questions about what happens to the paper when the person who drafted it is no longer reachable.
10. Where is the executed original physically held, and what happens to it in a fire, a flood, or a firm closure?
In many states a will that cannot be produced carries a presumption of revocation. Ask which rule governs here, and ask counsel to name it.
The dodge: It is in our vault. Ask to see the vault. Ask what the word covers.
11. Who takes this file if you die, retire, or are suspended before I do?
The drafter of a long-dated instrument is frequently gone before the instrument is read.
The dodge: The firm would handle it. A firm is not a person. Ask for the name.
12. Can the next lawyer read your file, or is it held in a system only you license?
Intent survives in contemporaneous notes. Notes in a proprietary format expire with the subscription that reads them.
The dodge: Everything is in the system. Ask for an export and see what arrives.
13. How long do you retain the file after execution, and under what rule?
Retention is either a written policy with a citation behind it or a habit with a filing cabinet behind it.
The dodge: Forever. No firm keeps anything forever.
5 — Conflicts, Coverage, Character
Four questions counsel would rather receive by email than in person. Ask them in person.
14. Who else in my family, currently or formerly, does this firm represent?
Conflicts in estate work do not merely offend an ethics rule. They supply a ground on which the document itself can be attacked.
The dodge: Any answer opening with I cannot discuss other clients that does not then describe the conflict protocol. The protocol is not confidential.
15. Have you or any partner here been disciplined, censured, or sanctioned, and by whom?
The record is public. The question is not really about the record. It is about whether the answer comes back directly.
The dodge: The pause before the answer. Look it up regardless, but ask first and watch.
16. What is your malpractice limit, and does the policy respond to a will contest and to a fiduciary removal action?
Coverage can cap below the cost of a contested estate, and some claims are argued into a category the policy does not reach.
The dodge: We are fully insured. Fully is not a number.
17. Who on your staff can open my file, and what do you do before granting that access?
The person scanning the executed will sees the asset schedule, the family structure, and every disinheritance in it.
The dodge: Everyone here is trustworthy. That is a feeling. Ask for the control.
6 — Assets the Template Has Not Met
Three questions where most estate templates are demonstrably behind the assets they are being asked to carry.
18. How do these documents give a fiduciary lawful access to my online accounts — under which statute, and through which clause?
Access is granted by law and by drafting. It is not granted by leaving a list of passwords, and in some circumstances that list creates its own exposure.
The dodge: Just leave us the logins. Ask which statute the instruction relies on.
19. Explain how a self-custodied wallet passes at death without the key being written into a filing that becomes public.
A probate record is a published record in many jurisdictions. A key inside one is a published key.
The dodge: Treating the wallet as a brokerage account with a different name.
20. Who operates my revenue-generating online properties between death and distribution, and under what authority?
These assets decay in weeks. Administration routinely takes longer than that, and platform terms rarely bend for an executor without documentation.
The dodge: The executor handles it. With which credentials, and under what platform authority?
7 — Administration and Failure Modes
The last four questions describe the day the document is actually used. A confident drafter answers these worst, because every one of them is about the drafter not being there.
21. Read me the successor list for every fiduciary role, to the end. What happens when it is exhausted?
Most instruments name one alternate and stop. The condition that empties the list is usually the same condition that made the estate difficult.
The dodge: There is a successor named. The singular is the finding.
22. If a trustee has to be removed, what does this document permit, and who decides?
Removal provisions are written calmly in advance or litigated expensively afterwards.
The dodge: You would go to court. That is a description of the absence of a provision.
23. Which assets must be retitled for this plan to function, who performs that work, and by when?
An unfunded trust is a well-drafted document about property it does not hold. This is among the most common failures in the field and the least discussed in the meeting.
The dodge: You will want to move those over. Ask who, and ask for the date.
24. If my executor asks you in ten years why a clause is there, what will the file contain that proves my intent?
Contests are fought over intent after the only witness to it is gone. Contemporaneous notes, dated and specific, are the whole of the defense. A thin file makes a thin will.
The dodge: I would remember. They will not be there to remember.
The Takeaway
A young lawyer who answers twenty of these well is worth keeping for thirty years. The four they stumble on are the four to put in writing before anyone signs.
The questions are not adversarial. They are the questions the drafter will wish had been asked, on the day an executor calls and the file has to speak for a client who cannot.
The lawyer drafting your estate is not a vendor. They are a witness to your intent who happens to be alive when you are not.
Print the list. Hand it over before the retainer, not after. The hesitation is the finding.
-Jenny Huang Goodman MPA MSc MHSA jenny@huanggoodman.com
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This file is offered from the standpoint of a tenured marketing and manufacturing house — not a financial, investment, legal, or advisory firm. It is general commentary on standing and stewardship, not financial, investment, legal, tax, or compliance advice. Read it as perspective, and consult your own licensed advisers and compliance counsel before acting.